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As I mentioned in yesterday’s post, God has me on a new race – a new adventure – and I am thrilled!!! Right now I do have a road map of sorts and a Compass that always points True. So, to answer the questions that I am hearing from so many dear friends and family, this is what I am up to…
Stewardship Consulting God has opened several doors of opportunity in this area. People have been contacting me and asking if I would be willing to help them. I have several projects lined up that will pay the bills for the next few months – praise the Lord and have several more strong prospects.
The essence of what I am doing is summed up in the tag line, “Serving Others…Better.” I am coming alongside those who are serving, ministering, touching others and help them do it even better – especially in the areas of fundraising and operational excellence. Helping them be better in the stewardship of their time and treasure. Be looking for a tab real soon on this website that says “Consulting” so that will have more information.
Writing a Book This is really a God-calling! For years, I have been encouraged by many to write a book but I have never done it because I did not have the time and it was too much work. Well, at least one of those excuses is out the window and after writing 15,000+ words so far the second excuse is becoming less formidable. The book is primarily autobiographical and many never get in a published form but for now I am clearly called to write it and we will go from there.
The Master’s Program for Women (TMPW) I am probably most excited about this opportunity. The mission of TMPW is “To prepare Christian leaders to change their world and build God’s Kingdom through their irresistible lifestyles and influential works of service.” It is a 3 year long program that is comprised of 12 interactive meetings (one a quarter), 12 notebooks filled with practical, hands on information, almost 30 books and, of course, personal coaching from me.
To accomplish the mission, TMPW teaches LifeMastery. The first year is focused on the personal realm (body, mind, soul and spirit). In this realm one exercises discipline. The second year is focused on the family and professional realm (marriage, children, career/volunteerism and resources). In this realm one exercises authority. And lastly, the third year is focused on the Kingdom realm (the Church and the world).
The first session for Houston will be Thursday, September 16th. However, I know that God will open other cities (i.e. Atlanta, Tampa, Dallas, etc.) as I continue to seek His face and find favor with Him and His people.
There you have it! Steve Curtis Chapman was right on when he sang, “This is a life like no other – this is The Great Adventure.” And, what a Great Adventure I am on!!!
So, what about you? Are you in an at-ease position or are you at the ready? What Great Adventure are you on?
“Any leads?” “Are you staying in Houston?” “What are you up to these days?” These questions and others have been the conversation starters of many of my visits with my friends these past 30 or so days. How blessed I am to have so many who truly care about me as well as what my future holds?
As many of you know, I have felt much like Abraham these past few months. From the Bible, Hebrews 11:8 tells us, “By faith Abraham, when called to go to a place he would later receive as his inheritance, obeyed and went, even though he did not know where he was going.” I was definitely called to leave LifeHouse and upon my resignation, was not the least bit certain of where I was to go next. But, I loved this recent tweet by Suzanne Eller, gave me great comfort “God didn’t ask Abraham to leave his country as a sacrifice, but to move him closer to the promise…”
As I shared in an earlier post, God has given me some direction but it still has been one of the strangest faith walks I have ever been on. What has been so unique about this walk is that instead of being in an “at-ease” position between steps – you know, where you take a step with the left foot and then bring your right foot parallel to your left and stand. This walk has looked more like this…
And since much of this came down during the winter Olympics, apart from the skin tight suit, I have felt a bit like this…
In the ready. On my mark. Awaiting the starter’s gun. Not wanting to miss the signal but also not wanting to get ahead of the voice of God.
Well, now, after being back from vacation for two weeks, I definitely feel like I am in my stride in this next season of my life. There is joy in my steps, my yoke is easy and my burden light. Tomorrow, I will share exactly what I am up!
In my two earlier posts, I shared reasons for my contentment in my singleness. The first one I shared was that if I were married my focus is divided and instead of just focusing on pleasing the Lord, my focus is on pleasing my husband. The second reason is that if I marry I will still have troubles – different than if I were married but still troubles. The final reason is that if I were married my body would not be my own.
Back to I Corinthians 7 again where it says in verses 4 and 5, “The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” The issue of sex in a marriage is a huge source of troubles in many marriages. For many women, life starts happening, schedules get busy, children come along, etc. and their desire for intimacy wanes. Meanwhile, the level of desire has not decreased in their husband. So there is conflict sometimes when the husband snuggles up to the wife and desires sex.
However, what the Bible says is that when a husband desires intimacy from his wife, unless she can convince him to pray, she needs to say yes so that Satan does not get any foothold in the marriage. If I were to marry, my selfish ways would be quickly revealed and I am certain that this would cause conflict especially because I love sleep!!
In Monday’s post, I that for the most part I am very content in my singleness but there are days were I struggle. On those days, there are three Truths that I remind myself about that helps me to re-gain perspective. The first one I shared was that if I were married my focus is divided and instead of just focusing on pleasing the Lord, my focus is on pleasing my husband.
The second Truth I want to share about today comes from I Corinthians 7:27-28, “Are you married? Do not seek a divorce. Are you unmarried? Do not look for a wife. But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.” Here is the Truth: if I get married I will have trouble. Now, as a single, I will have trouble as well – different trouble – but still trouble. And not only do I still have troubles but now I have troubles with someone else.
I sometimes think if I get married all of my troubles will be gone. If I just got married, I would be living on Easy Street and things would be go smoothly. The hard things in life are because I am single. But that is such a lie and the Truth is that I will have troubles, difficulties and challenges – not the same kind if I were single but still I would have them.
When I am eating dinner alone and I see a couple enjoying dinner together, I remind myself that if I were married I would have trouble. When I am traveling by myself and see a husband carry his wife’s bags, I remind myself that if I were married I would have trouble. When I am struggling to make big decisions, I remind myself that if I were married I would have trouble. These reminders keep me focused on the fact that marriage is a wonderful thing but being married will not eliminate problems from my life.
On Saturday, I will share the third and final reason for finding my contentment in my singleness!!
For the most part, about 90% of the time, I am completely content in my singleness. I truly view singleness as a gift and enjoy it! However, those 10% times when I am not content, my mind wanders through the reasons why I would love to be married. I would love to be married because when done right it is just a great example of Christ and His bride, the church. I would love to be married because of the companionship that it would provide. I would love to be married because decision-making by myself can be so hard.
It is at these times that I remind myself of the three Truths that help me gain perspective. The first truth is that if I am married my focus is divided and instead of just focusing on pleasing the Lord, my focus is on pleasing my husband. Paul says in I Corinthians 7:32-35, “I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife—and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband.”
Paul is not saying that it is wrong but that is just the way it is. Once I marry, if I want to please my Lord, I please my husband because my husband has become my number one ministry. As a wife, my calling is to be my husband’s helpmeet…his helper…his mission becomes my mission.
This does not mean that I don’t ever do “godly” things. That doesn’t mean I am not serving the Lord outside the home. Obviously my relationship with the Lord is still primary but how it is manifested in my life most often is in serving my husband. But being married will cause distraction in my life. As a single woman, I am not distracted at all. I am free to move to Africa and minister or stay in Houston and serve in my church’s women’s ministry. I can pack my bags and move back to Atlanta, live in a friend’s basement and write my book or I can flip burgers at McDonald’s and write my book in Houston. I am free to go or stay as the Lord instructs.
This also applies to the day-to-day things as well. If I want to purchase something, I go and buy it. I don’t have to check with anyone. If I want to go away for the weekend, I do not have to look on his calendar to see if we are free. I can just do it. Cereal for dinner—fine. Movie on Saturday afternoon—no problem.
When I get a little restless and desiring to be married, this first truth helps me to get my perspective back on track. I remember that as a single, my only focus is the Lord and I am not distracted by the concerns of the world. On Wednesday, I will share the 2nd Truth that helps me to gain perspective.