In my two earlier posts, I shared reasons for my contentment in my singleness. The first one I shared was that if I were married my focus is divided and instead of just focusing on pleasing the Lord, my focus is on pleasing my husband. The second reason is that if I marry I will still have troubles – different than if I were married but still troubles. The final reason is that if I were married my body would not be my own. Back to I Corinthians 7 again where it says in verses 4 and 5, “The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” The issue of sex in a marriage is a huge source of troubles in many marriages. For many women, life starts happening, schedules get busy, children come along, etc. and their desire for intimacy wanes. Meanwhile, the level of desire has not decreased in their husband. So there is conflict sometimes when the husband snuggles up to the wife and desires sex.
However, what the Bible says is that when a husband desires intimacy from his wife, unless she can convince him to pray, she needs to say yes so that Satan does not get any foothold in the marriage. If I were to marry, my selfish ways would be quickly revealed and I am certain that this would cause conflict especially because I love sleep!!